Danny and I have been married for 15 1/2 years and I’ll be the first to say that marriage is not easy. However, every morning I wake up happy to know that Danny is in my life. Our marriage is not perfect and we do have good and bad days. I wrote a post in 2017 called Keeping Your Marriage Strong and I talked about a few ways we focus on our marriage. Today I am sharing Ten ways that you can show your significant other that you LOVE them.
QUALITY TIME – We are all busy, but it is so important to simply slow down and focus on your spouse. You don’t have to carve out two hours every day to sit with them; however, if you just have 10 minutes to sit and have coffee in the morning, then make the most of it! Make sure that 10 minutes is uninterrupted and you take the time to talk to each other.
ENCOURAGE – We should be our spouse’s biggest fan and always encourage them to follow their dreams. Personally, I am not always excited about some of the things Danny is good at, passionate about or chooses to do, but I will still encourage him to pursue those things.
‘JUST BECAUSE’ GIFT – Who doesn’t love to get a present!?!?! I love to buy presents for Christmas, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. However, I am always listening to Danny talk about things he would like to have. So every now and then I will take the time to buy him a little present. It doesn’t have to be expensive, it is the thought that counts.
UNPLUG – In this day and age we always have our devices with us. We are constantly checking emails, text messages, and notification alerts. I really need to work on this one. It is so important to be present in conversations and not be on our devices.
SUPPORT THEIR DREAMS – We all have dreams and they are important to us. Most of the time our dreams our unique to us. It is so important be supportive of our spouse’s dreams. Rather it is learning how to become a photographer or learning how to fly a plane, we need to be supportive and push them to do what they love!
MAKE THEIR FAVORITE MEAL – I typically cook the same meals over and over. However, if the girls are both gone for the night, it is nice to cook a meal and just hang out at home.
WORKOUT TOGETHER – Healthy marriages are helped by healthy bodies. I always enjoy going to the gym or playing a sport with Danny.
DATE NIGHTS – I am pretty sure our friends think we are crazy because we have ALOT of date nights. We probably go out 1 or 2 times a week at night and have a breakfast date every week. We increased our date nights after everything that happened this past summer because we realized that our marriage was so important and we weren’t making us a priority. We love going to grab a drink at a local restaurant or going to the movies. Our babysitter budget has increased, but it is worth it because we can get out and enjoy time together.
HOBBIES – Danny’s hobbies have changed over the past 18 years. However, I have always (most of the time) been supportive. His newest hobby is skydiving. The number one question people ask me is “How can you let him do that?”. My response is that I support him and have faith that he will be okay. I can not sit at home and stress out everytime he goes skydiving, that would drive me crazy! He always texts me before and after each skydive so that I know he is okay. Skydiving makes him happy and positively impacts so many other areas of his life. It means a lot to him. He is going to Egypt soon to meet up with 100 people from all over the world to jump over the pyramids! I am excited for him because I know that it is a trip of a lifetime!
SAVED THE BEST FOR LAST — INTIMACY – No one ever wants to talk about SEX, but lets take a moment and throw a few things out there. First of all, I know my mom and Danny’s mom both read my blog, so sorry to them in advance. 😐 I have some friends who tell me they don’t have a great sex life, but they’ve learned to accept it. Ouch. Accept it? Intimacy is such an important part of a relationship, and if you’re “accepting” something less, it WILL be a point of issue in your marriage. I read a survey recently that said most couples want to try various things in their sex life, but are afraid to voice that to their spouse. Both people are wanting it, but neither wants to be rejected. Whether it be new positions, locations, fetishes, clothing, roles or many, many other things, MOST of us have curiosities in our mind. Start the conversation by asking your spouse to name one thing they are curious about trying in the bedroom and then you answer as well. Unless you are adamantly opposed to the answers, TRY THEM, then decide if you liked it or not. You’ll find the conversation will become more and more fun, and it will become easier to talk about all the kinky things you’ve each been thinking about on your own anyway! Some things are amazing, some will fail miserably. You’ll laugh at yourselves, grow closer and hopefully experience amazing sex.
Here’s a list of everything Danny and I have tried:
On second thought, it makes for much more of a fun conversation in person! 😉
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